Compassion plays a huge role in self defense. And it’s the missing ingredient for a lot of women.
If you don’t love yourself, you won’t defend yourself. Bad Guys will search out victims with low self-esteem for this very reason – these people make great victims because they have no compassion for themselves.
Paraphrasing Jordan Peterson:
The flipside of compassion is violence. You will get violent to defend things you are compassionate about.
Peterson’s mother bear example is a great point:
Why’s this exclusively a women’s problem (it’s not, but as a generalisation it works)? There’s that old joke about a woman stands in front of a mirror and wonders if she’s sexy. A man stands in front of a mirror and knows he is.